Sukob
Updates on the wedding plans: Wala po, sorry. Ito po ay dahil sa sumusunod.
Marami tayong kasabihan o superstitious beliefs pagdating sa kasalan. Halos lahat na nga yata ng mga desisyon tungkol sa kasal eh base sa mga kasabihang ito. At ang pinakamatindi o “nakakatakot” na hindi sundin ay ang tinatawag na SUKOB.
Sabi ng matatanda, kapag “sukob” daw ang magkapatid na ikakasal, aabutin sila ng walang katapusang kamalasan. Sukob here means the siblings marry in the same year.
May isa pang klaseng sukob. Ito ay sukob sa patay (death in the family). This belief warns that if a member of the immediate family of either the bride or the groom-to-be dies, they should wait for another year before tying the knot. Hihintayin munang magbabang-luksa, which coincides with the first death anniversary of the deceased.
Naikwento ko sa Blog ni Ella na nagpunta ako sa Tarlac kasama si Tatay at Ana noong last weekend of November. Namatay po ang Papang ni Boo. We stayed with him during the first few days of the wake. Bumalik ako sa Tarlac the next weekend to attend the funeral.
Bunso si Boo kaya you can imagine his grief over his father’s passing. Mas naawa ako sa mother niya. After more than 50 years of being together, naiwan na siyang mag-isa.
Pinag-usapan ng buong pamilya ang kasal namin pagkatapos ng libing. Lahat ng members ng family ni Boo expected that the June wedding next year will be moved. Of course it will.
Hindi na ako kailangang takutin ng kasabihan sa sukob. Out of respect for their loss, hihintayin kong magbabang-luksa si Mamang, si Boo at ang mga kapatid niya.
Ika nga ni ama, makakapaghintay naman ang pag-aasawa.
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emily 9:37 pm on December 10, 2009 Permalink |
Ella,
My sympathy to you and to Boo and his family…my prayers are with you.
ella 3:00 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Thanks Emily
katrina 3:32 am on December 12, 2009 Permalink |
my fervent prayers and sympathy to you both.
youngest din ako ella at the day after na magsabi ang mapapangasawa ko na mamanhikan na sila, dun namatay ang nanay ko. kami man, out of respect, nagpalipas ng babang-luksa. mahirap maging masaya sa pinakaespesyal na araw mo kung hindi ka mabibigyan ng oras para magluksa.
pakisabi na lang kay boo, marahil kaya nagpaalam na si papang, alam nyang maganda na ang kalalagyan ng bunso nya. alam nya na boo would be okay kasi nandyan ka.
again, my sincere condolences.
ella 3:02 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Mas malungkot naman ang nangyari sa inyo Kat. Parang hinintay lang ng nanay mong malagay ka sa tahimik.
harcy 5:27 pm on December 12, 2009 Permalink |
condolences ate sa papa ni pixel heart mo….
i know theres a good reason for it.
ingat lagi at pakisabi kay pixel heart be strong
ella 3:04 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Maybe. baka kailangan pa ng longer preparation, ma;ay natin no?
IKAY 12:36 am on December 15, 2009 Permalink |
condelence sa family ni boo at syo n rin ellabebs…
well i agree sa sinabi ni ama tsaka ang mas importante eh alam nyo ni boo na mahal nyo ang isa’t isa…basbas nlang nman ng simbahan ang ibig sabihin ng kasal eh although syempre importante rin yun…pero ang mas importante dun eh ngkakaunawaan kyo ni Boo.
ella 3:06 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Oo nga, Ikay. Hindi naman mahaba ang isang taon pa.
maxi 4:02 am on December 19, 2009 Permalink |
Condelence sa family ni boo.
Kami din ng kapatid ko sukob, pro di ko alam na sukob dahil nagpasecret wedding sila in LV saka lang namin nalaman nung after ng honeymoon namin dahil binisita ko sila. Mas maiigi na siguro yung sukob sa kasal kesa death.
ella 3:07 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Hi Maxi, kasabihan lang naman siguro ‘yon pero mabuti na rin yung sumusunod
cindy 10:52 pm on December 19, 2009 Permalink |
sa case namin Mommy died sept 2006 at sumunod ang Dad January 2007 so everything had to be rescheduled in 2008.. sabi ng taga Church…okay na naman magpakasal after 40 days pero choice nyo if paabutin ng 1 year. Xempre magastos tlga magpakasal. kung nagtitipid ka magkasalang bayan ka na lang LOL >>>> A lot of things could happen in a year .one of might reconsider, change his mind etc..LOL.
ella 3:09 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Yup, maraming puwedeng mangyari. In this life, the only constant thing is change
cindy 10:57 pm on December 19, 2009 Permalink |
based on experience , panget ang live in kasi wala maxadong blessings and I always felt insecure as a partenr kasi you don’t know what the guy is thinking at the moment. di sha binding. you can just imagine sa ibang areas pag nakareceive ng singsing yung girl at ready na ang lahat saka lang mapo prove na tlga seryoso yung lalaki…kahit nga sa araw mismo ng kasal yung ibang nag iisplit na lang. LOL
ella 3:10 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Naku, sinabi mo. Big deal talaga ang engagement rings sa Western world. mas prefered ko ang refrigerator kesa sinsing
malejandria 8:21 am on December 20, 2009 Permalink |
oh, I am very sorry to hear that. My condolences to both of you, especially to your Pixel Heart, Ella. Kakalungkot naman Pasko ni Boo. Di bale, Ella, patatagin mo na lang loob ng groom to be mo. The more that he needed you now. And I am hoping with all of my heart that this tragedy, though sad, will not hinder your knot-tying. It may be delayed, but still it will happen. The good side is, you have more time to prepare for it. I tell you, time fly. When the day comes, you realize you still need to do this, do that, etc. Never mind it. Just walk down the isle, girl.
ella 3:12 pm on January 3, 2010 Permalink |
Malungkot din ako, dear, kasi wala siya sa tabi ko this Christmas and new Year. Siyempre andoon siya sa tabi ng Nanay niya sa province. Naintindihan ko naman. It’s ok.
em 2:35 pm on January 18, 2010 Permalink |
Hi, so sorry about what happened. ‘Have the same case here. The father of my fiance died this Jan. Don’t know if it’s ok to have a civil wedding this year.